No, really.
Polyamorous relationships require an ability to work with time: you have to split time between all relationships and life outside of love. They require openness to other possibilities, to differences. They require an ability to examine ourselves and others.
When I was at PantheaCon, I attended a panel on why Pagans are well-suited to polyamory. Though sex-positivism and other points have little to do with deity collecting, the above points from the panel came swimming back to me when I read Aubs’ post on deity collecting.
Polyamory is an identity. As with most of my identities, it is one I felt a need to hide. While I do not yet consider myself a deity collector, it’s definitely an identity I would hide. It’s certainly something that some people shame.
Yes, I would rather have a deep relationship with my Fathers and my Ladies alone than know other gods. But there is no reason that I cannot make a relationship with other gods that, while lacking depth, is no less invalid. My vows merely state that I put Them first, not that I serve Them alone. Kemetic Orthodoxy has more festivals for one group of gods than others. I cannot deny this. My fellow Kemetics often honor different deities than myself; my friends belonging to religions of other pantheons have vastly different gods to worship.
Aset is here, actively, as my teacher. Amunet is the patron of my relationship with the sister-daughter of my heart. On State Holidays, I honor State gods. I give thanks and honor to the deities my friends worship as a way to honor our friendships. Persephone is beginning to become active in the dawning of spring.
It’s becoming a lot to handle, I have begun building a schedule for religion itself. I have many loves with my gods, and I have the time management skills to handle them.
Related Reading:
My Party is Full – Crow and Hound
Their Love Flows Like Wine 